Tuesday, October 6, 2009

TMI Tuesday #207

1. What is your underwear "style" of choice?
Solid color briefs, though recently this has consisted of very worn and ripped underwear.  I desperately need to go out and buy new ones.

2. How old were you when you had your first sexual experience?
17, at which point I went from no previous contact to kissing, oral, and intercourse in 48 hours.  (would have been 24, but we got interrupted).

3. What about a potential partner turns you on?
 Short Term: (Walking by and thinking yum)
  • - A young and pretty face, minimal to no makeup, and a smile never hurt
  • - Clean and lengthy hair (at least shoulder length, though long hair worn up is still good).  Actual color or level of straightness doesn't matter so much except when it is obvious that work has gone into changing the color or adding or removing curls.  Dyed blond causes retching reactions.
  • - Well kept (and unpainted) hands and feet.
  • - Smooth and clear skin.  Again color or freckles, moles, and the like don't bother me
Long Term:  (Once the mouth opens)
  • - Strong and independent will
  • - Self confidence and sexual confidence
  • - Sexual openness and a willing interest in having fun
  • - Intellegence and well-rounded life experiences
4. Have you ever played a game which may require you or others to disrobe?
Yes. Strip pool, strip Jenga, and Onyx.  The latter only with my wife.  Hoping that someday we'll have friends close enough to play the latter with.

5. Given or received finger scratch marks during sexual activity?
Yes, but to both, but not long lasting marks.  Usually faded by the time the activity ends.

Bonus: How many times is the most you have ever had sex in a 24 hour period?
5, I think.  Some sex or heavy play in anticipation of heading out to a swingers club. Sex while there, which is usually twice.  Sex upon returning home and reliving the experience.  Sex upon waking up in each other's arms the next day.



Sunday, October 4, 2009

Drip, Drip, Drip

I've never played with wax before, neither had it done to me, nor done it to another.  But I enjoy sensation play on myself and love listening to Remintreya's breathing and moans when I'm playing with her.  A while back I bought a bag of 100% paraffin tea candles.  I  tested them at the time, dropping a few drops on my inner arm.  It smarted, and turned a little red when I dropped them from 6 inches or so.  But the pain faded and no marks were visible a few hours later.

Last night was the first time I used them on my wife.  We wrapped the futon with a painter's drop cloth.  Not the best choice, as it sticks to your skin and is quite painful to get up from after lying on it for long.  But we don't have any sheets we are willing to sacrifice.  I had her lie face down and I proceeded to drip wax across her back.  I can't comment on the sensation in general, but it was amazing to listen to her breathing.  Being upside down she had no sense of where or when the next few drops would be coming.  I was dripping from 18" or so, so the wax had significantly longer to cool on the way down.  Only once did her skin redden beneath the wax, which surprised me as her skin tends to mark much more readily than mine.

Once I missed her back and dripped a drop right between her butt cheeks, just before her crack gets covered up.  She said that was a bit painful, but otherwise was happy and smiling even through her ragged breathing.  I think she liked it :D .  I wish now, that the wax I had bought was not all white.  It would make for some astonishing pictures if it was colored enough to show up against her skin.

I punctuated the dripping with flogging from our nylon flogger.  This is a very soft flogger, so even swung with great force, it is not painful.  I also threw in a few spanks of her ass now and then.  There was no moaning, but a lot of enjoyable sounding intakes of air.  When I was done dipping on wax, I rubbed her back down and this removed nearly all of the wax bits.  This, I was told, was not painful as I was worried removing the wax would be.  I rolled her over, blindfolded her, and set up the Hitachi wand on a pillow such that it remained pressed against her clit.

As she lay there enjoying the clitoral stimulation, I played around with cold sensation on her front side.  A touch of ice to the nipples, or stroking it along her inner thighs.  Both of these made her jump and squirm, ever so enjoyable to watch and hear.  Occasionally, I would stroke her clit with the ice cube.  Just run it all the way up and down her slit.  I expected this to be particularly cruel, but she was squirming less for that and seemed to quite enjoy it.  I continued to use the nylon flogger from time to time, to keep her whole front sensitive.  Once or twice I ran the ice cube down her facial cheeks and was rewarded with a very sharp inhalation each time.

Remintreya has a tendency to always want to be actively pleasing me during play.  When she can, she'll reach down and grab my cock or stroke my chest.  Needless to say this is very enjoyable, but also means she is not concentrating on the feelings I am causing and so I must bring myself to tell her to stop touching me.  It was hard to ban her from touching me until she had cum, but I did.

After a while, I stopped my caressing with an ice cube, and took a more active role with the vibrator, not leaving it pressed against her, but actively grinding out circles with the head, pressing it hard against her clit.  I was soon rewarded with very passionate moans and shortly a request that she be allowed to cum.  I gave Remintreya permission to, on the condition that she screamed by name as she came, and shortly she did.  It sent shivers down my own spine to hear fervency with which she cried it out her body thrashing out in orgasmic bliss.

She pulled my hand and the vibrator away afterwards, the sensation had become too much for her.  I gave her permission to go back to touching me and she immediately grabbed at my cock and resumed stroking it.  I slide my fingers down her slit and felt how wet she had become, gently teasing back into an aroused state.  She had soon restored me to being rock hard and I asked her if she wanted my cock in her.  Of course I knew she did, but I love to hear her ask for it.  After asking and hearing her desire for me several more times, I climbed on to the futon with her, and slipped inside her as I knelt between her legs.  This position afforded me access to her clit and I brought the vibrator back into play, rubbing it against her clit as I stroked inside her.  This position also allowed her to run her feet up my chest, and around my head and over my hair, a feeling that I love especially after play like this where her body core is warm but her toes will be quite cold and shocking against my skin.  I started to kiss and nibble on her toys, but was too distracted by my cock buried inside her.

I fucked her slowly for a bit, and then keeping the vibrator against her clit, bent over into a more missionary position. I've never buried the vibrator between us like that, but judging from her reactions it was as incredible for her as it was for me.  We fucked like that for a while, until she reached down and pulled the vibrator out.  With renewed vigor I took her fast and hard and shot my load inside her.

It was an amazing night, and when I went to the kitchen to get some water, I glanced at the clock and realized it was about an hour or so later than I expected.  I guess we were just having that much fun.  We were certainly drained and starved making a packet of noodles as a second dinner at 1:30.  Mmm, food after sex and kinky play, a combination of the best things in life.  Have I mentioned, I love my wife!

Saturday, October 3, 2009

Longer • Harder • Firmer

So proclaims the package my new stretchy cock ring came in.  What it failed to mention was that 5 min. or so after putting it on, my cock and balls would turn purple.  Needless to say, this had my a bit disconcerted.  So I removed it.  Man was it a bitch to remove.  Trying to slide a finger between the elastic ring and my balls without painfully pinching skin took a while.  Once I was there, the round ring wanted to roll up my cock as I stretched it enough to get my balls out.  This could have been okay, except it has been a long while since I've trimmed the hair around my cock, so it rolling up my cock meant wrapping my pubic hair around it such that when I attempted to take it off it pulled some of my hair out, which is extremely painful (how do women stand waxing?).

After it was off, my cock quickly restored itself to it's normal color and shrank in diameter.  Something about the way the blood rushed out meant it shrank in diameter faster than it shrank in length, such that I was left with an erection that was an average length for me but abnormally skinny for that length.  It looked really odd.

I can't say my first real experience with a cock ring was particularly enjoyable as a result.  It obviously wasn't so traumatic that I couldn't get and keep an erection, and it was pleasant to have on.  Doing some more reading online and everything says it should go on before the erection.  I don't know how important this is, but maybe I'll put it on when I'm a little softer next time.  And after I've trimmed and perhaps shaven the dick itself.  If it is going to turn my dick that purple that quickly though, I don't imagine it will get used very often.

Friday, October 2, 2009

New toys

We went to Wild at Heart yesterday and bought a stretchy cock-ring and a mid-size silicone dildo. That was an interesting store to go to.  Remintreya commented along the lines of, "There was a lot of stuff there, that I wasn't quite sure what it was for."    A nice, kinky, sex shop.  Unlike Babeland which I visited in LA and was a very vanilla sex shop.

I used to have a cloth and velcro cock ring.  Unfortunately, I was never able to use it without the scratchiness of the velcro from bothering me.  The solid piece rings worry me.  I don't want to get hard and then get anxious about being constricted for too long.  So we bought a stretchy one.  We'll see how using it goes, and what goes through my head when it is on.

I was quite happy to find a mid-size silicone dildo (thickness wise).  We used to have several silicone toys.  However, two dildos and a plug died a shredded death at the hands of my canine companion.  Things were being shifted around and they were left out while no one was home at one point.  Oops.  So what I currently had was one small plug and a larger (through the nominally small size, i.e. blue) feeldoe.

I like anal play.  There is very little sensation that is as exciting to me as having a probably lubricated toy played with inside of me. The feeldoe is usually too large for me, and the plug can't be used for thrusting.  Though pushing against the base while it is in me is still an incredible feeling.

Eventually, I'd like to work up to being able to take the feeldoe and size wise, it's not a long step from that to being able to take an average size penis if I found a male play partner.  I think with more regular wearing of the plug I have and then being fucked with this new dildoe on occasion that should make that possible.  If I'm lucky, this sort of training could be directed by my wife, having her tell me to drop my pants and put my plug in for the next x hours.  Or telling me, "Tonight I'm going to fuck your ass, so make sure you are ready."  The plug I can take with little notice (and a lot of lube).  But actually getting fucked in the ass does require some mental preparedness.

That is an issue I've long had with sex in general.  My mind is either in full borne sex mode, or completely shut off.  But that is another topic.  Right now I'm just excited to have a bigger but not huge dildo in our toy box :D.

Thursday, October 1, 2009

Lying in bed and horny

Setting up this blog took longer than I thought. Remintreya has been in bed for several hours and I am now joining her. I am horny and want to fuck her.

Last night I was in bed first. When she came to bed, I had dozed off but rolled over to cuddle. I caressed her in my half awake state and I'm sure I dozed off several times. It was very late before I woke up enough to take my caressing to fondling. The passion grew in me and I could hear the change in breathing signifying her own arousal. I nibbled my way up her neck and whispered, "I'm going to fuck you now," into her ear. I took her from behind with such lust and passion that within 5 minutes I had thrust us to almost falling off the bed. I brought us back onto the bed and rolled her face up. I took her quite feverishly for 10 more minutes, our breathing and thrusting in perfect sync. Soon, the feel of her pussy around my cock and her warm breath on my ear drove me over the edge and I blissfully shot my load inside her.

Usually, I am not this horny the next night (without encouragement). But tonight I am, yet I don't wish to wake her for another late night brief moment of passion. Even though I have comfortably masturbated in front of her. I can't bring myself to do so lying next to her while she sleeps. And so I lie here only gently rubbing my dick against the bed, frustrated in my own horniness.

A Beginning

I have a regular blog.  It's updated infrequently, and read by all my family.  Not only that, but by my wife's family.  I don't mind what my family discovers about me, my wife, Remintreya, is not as open though.  Most of the topics I want to blog about however, tend to be those not post-able on my family accessible blog.  Sometimes these are just frustrations that if I posted those involved would discover, more often they're topics of a sexual nature.  I've been swinging for several years, just starting to explore bdsm and various kinks as well as a more poly lifestyle.  I want to be able to talk about this without revealing my inner thoughts.  I may eventually link the two with a disclaimer and words of caution, but for now, I'm going to enjoy having anonymity.

This also means I will have few readers, as I won't be pointing anyone I know at this blog.  So if you're here, let me know who you are, and why you came.  I don't know where I am going with this, but it's a journey, and I'll appreciate companions.  For now, I am Imintril, a mid-20s male person.  The name has no meaning, I think it sounds pretty and Google returned few hits for it, so it will make a distinctive impression if it gets anywhere.